Treat Yourself With Respect
Believe this - if you treat yourself with respect the world will follow suit.
People struggle in life.
I know I have my struggles and I bet you do as well.
None of us is perfect - all of us have made mistakes.
What we need to know is this: no matter what mistakes we've made we still have the chance to overcome them.
We still have value in this world - regardless of our past.
If you are alive and breathing today you still have another chance to right your wrongs.
There is real power in this knowledge.
Knowing this is a building block in developing your own self respect.
Self respect is required in creating your calm.
Self respect is a concept that means something a little different to each of us - but the foundation is the same for all.
Self respect is placing value in you and living in a manner that supports that value.
That's the tricky part - the living in a manner that supports your value part - but this is the most important aspect of your own self respect.
In living with self respect for who you are and who you aspire to be you are also training the rest of the world in the manner in which they are allowed to treat you.
Think about that for a moment.
The world will treat you in the same manner in which you treat yourself.
If you are viewed as someone that treats their own self and others respectfully then you are likely to have them treat you with the same respect.
The old saying - "you have to give respect to get respect" is true - the part that is left out is that you have to give respect to your own self just as you should anyone else.
So, how do you live in a manner that is respectful to you? Accept your past mistakes You've made some bad choices.
You probably didn't really consider the outcome associated with the choices when you made them.
You've hurt other people - you've hurt yourself.
We all have.
Every single person on earth now, and at any other time in the past, has made a mistake, made a bad choice, or hurt someone.
The important thing to think about now is what have you learned from the experience? Think about the result of your action or inaction that lead to either someone else or your own self getting hurt.
How did it happen? Why did it happen? Answer the questions - internalize the thoughts.
If you owe an apology then apologize sincerely.
If there is anything else you can do to right your wrong then take the action to do so.
Stop beating yourself up over it.
You made a mistake - you learned from it - you apologized for it.
Get over it.
Don't do it again - but get over it.
You don't need to punish yourself from here on out.
You're here - you still have value in this world.
Treat others with respect The "golden rule" is golden for a reason - you cannot go wrong by practicing it.
Treat others in the manner in which you want to be treated.
Wouldn't the world be a very different place if we could all just follow this one little gem of a rule? If you put this into practice in your own life you will be amazed at the results.
You will find almost all of the people you interact with will do so in a much more friendly and accommodating way.
Be genuine - say please - say thank you - be aware of the power you have to influence the feelings of other people and wield your power in a positive way.
It will come back to you tenfold.
This will make you feel great about yourself and will influence others to treat you just as well as you have treated them.
The way you treat others matters.
You matter - you're here - you still have value.
Forgive others who do not treat you well Forgiveness - it has more power for you than it does for the person you have forgiven.
Sometimes it is not even necessary for the forgiven person to know how you feel - it will still free you from the weight of carrying a grudge.
People will hurt you - they will criticize unfairly, they will patronize, they will make mistakes.
They are also only human.
They may be forgiven and given another chance.
Some deserve many, many chances if they are sincere in their efforts to stop treating you poorly.
This does not mean you should allow people to continually treat you poorly and forgive them so they have the opportunity to continue to do so.
Sometimes we have to leave the bad behind in order to make room for the good to come.
People who consistently treat you poorly might just need to be left behind.
But even those who get left behind as you move forward through life need to be forgiven - not for them - for you.
You don't have to carry the weight of their poor behavior.
Their behavior is their issue not yours.
You cannot control them - only your reaction to them and their behavior.
Forgive them - but don't allow them to continue to treat you poorly forever.
You're here - you still have value.
No matter what you have done that you are ashamed of, no matter how poorly you have decided to behave toward others, no matter how poorly you have decided to behave toward yourself - you have value.
You can stop the bad and replace it with good.
It will take work - but you can do the work.
It will take time - but you can invest the time.
The day you start making better choices for yourself can easily be today.
Just decide you are going to do it.
Decide you are going to treat yourself with respect.
Start with making good choices for yourself.
Then begin treating other people just how you want them to treat you.
It will not always be easy - they will challenge you - you will challenge yourself.
Don't give up.
If you want the world to treat you with respect you must show them how.
If you want the world to treat you with respect you must start respecting yourself.
Tell me, what are your biggest challenges in treating yourself with respect? What are your biggest challenges in treating others with respect?
People struggle in life.
I know I have my struggles and I bet you do as well.
None of us is perfect - all of us have made mistakes.
What we need to know is this: no matter what mistakes we've made we still have the chance to overcome them.
We still have value in this world - regardless of our past.
If you are alive and breathing today you still have another chance to right your wrongs.
There is real power in this knowledge.
Knowing this is a building block in developing your own self respect.
Self respect is required in creating your calm.
Self respect is a concept that means something a little different to each of us - but the foundation is the same for all.
Self respect is placing value in you and living in a manner that supports that value.
That's the tricky part - the living in a manner that supports your value part - but this is the most important aspect of your own self respect.
In living with self respect for who you are and who you aspire to be you are also training the rest of the world in the manner in which they are allowed to treat you.
Think about that for a moment.
The world will treat you in the same manner in which you treat yourself.
If you are viewed as someone that treats their own self and others respectfully then you are likely to have them treat you with the same respect.
The old saying - "you have to give respect to get respect" is true - the part that is left out is that you have to give respect to your own self just as you should anyone else.
So, how do you live in a manner that is respectful to you? Accept your past mistakes You've made some bad choices.
You probably didn't really consider the outcome associated with the choices when you made them.
You've hurt other people - you've hurt yourself.
We all have.
Every single person on earth now, and at any other time in the past, has made a mistake, made a bad choice, or hurt someone.
The important thing to think about now is what have you learned from the experience? Think about the result of your action or inaction that lead to either someone else or your own self getting hurt.
How did it happen? Why did it happen? Answer the questions - internalize the thoughts.
If you owe an apology then apologize sincerely.
If there is anything else you can do to right your wrong then take the action to do so.
Stop beating yourself up over it.
You made a mistake - you learned from it - you apologized for it.
Get over it.
Don't do it again - but get over it.
You don't need to punish yourself from here on out.
You're here - you still have value in this world.
Treat others with respect The "golden rule" is golden for a reason - you cannot go wrong by practicing it.
Treat others in the manner in which you want to be treated.
Wouldn't the world be a very different place if we could all just follow this one little gem of a rule? If you put this into practice in your own life you will be amazed at the results.
You will find almost all of the people you interact with will do so in a much more friendly and accommodating way.
Be genuine - say please - say thank you - be aware of the power you have to influence the feelings of other people and wield your power in a positive way.
It will come back to you tenfold.
This will make you feel great about yourself and will influence others to treat you just as well as you have treated them.
The way you treat others matters.
You matter - you're here - you still have value.
Forgive others who do not treat you well Forgiveness - it has more power for you than it does for the person you have forgiven.
Sometimes it is not even necessary for the forgiven person to know how you feel - it will still free you from the weight of carrying a grudge.
People will hurt you - they will criticize unfairly, they will patronize, they will make mistakes.
They are also only human.
They may be forgiven and given another chance.
Some deserve many, many chances if they are sincere in their efforts to stop treating you poorly.
This does not mean you should allow people to continually treat you poorly and forgive them so they have the opportunity to continue to do so.
Sometimes we have to leave the bad behind in order to make room for the good to come.
People who consistently treat you poorly might just need to be left behind.
But even those who get left behind as you move forward through life need to be forgiven - not for them - for you.
You don't have to carry the weight of their poor behavior.
Their behavior is their issue not yours.
You cannot control them - only your reaction to them and their behavior.
Forgive them - but don't allow them to continue to treat you poorly forever.
You're here - you still have value.
No matter what you have done that you are ashamed of, no matter how poorly you have decided to behave toward others, no matter how poorly you have decided to behave toward yourself - you have value.
You can stop the bad and replace it with good.
It will take work - but you can do the work.
It will take time - but you can invest the time.
The day you start making better choices for yourself can easily be today.
Just decide you are going to do it.
Decide you are going to treat yourself with respect.
Start with making good choices for yourself.
Then begin treating other people just how you want them to treat you.
It will not always be easy - they will challenge you - you will challenge yourself.
Don't give up.
If you want the world to treat you with respect you must show them how.
If you want the world to treat you with respect you must start respecting yourself.
Tell me, what are your biggest challenges in treating yourself with respect? What are your biggest challenges in treating others with respect?
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