Successful Friendships
Children are always so straightforward in their relationships.
When a child wants to make a new friend, they simply walk up to another child, smile, and ask something like, "Hey...
y'want to play?" It was so very simple when we were children.
We were always willing to adapt our play to include more kids.
"The more the merrier" was always the accepted attitude.
We were always so much more accepting of everyone and anyone around us that wanted to play.
I have watched my own six children go through the same processes as they have grown up.
I really must admit I found it a bit sad in their growing up process that they have lost that simple innocence that always allowed them to develop honest relationships with others.
Which brings us to the present.
Why do we as "adults" have such a difficult time making friends and developing relationships?Why has modern society created a ban on male/female friendships as life goes on? Are we so obsessed with our own sexuality, or lack thereof, that we choose not to balance and enrich our own lives by cultivating friendships from both sexes? When we limit our friendships, we limit our abilities to grow and deepen our abilities to develop true and lasting relationships that will continue through our lifetimes.
Successful marriages are found in developing friendships that were nurtured and allowed to happen.
Successful friendships are the same, as well.
If only we, as adults, could allow the trusting innocence of childhood to permeate our current efforts to develop and strengthen friendships.
If only we didn't have to be always guessing and wondering..
..
How can you haunt me so Keeping so close within reach Touching with heart and mind Yet keeping a distance so far I can barely hear your speaking Above the beating of your heart And the rise and fall of the Breathing in your breast; Our eyes meet in a fixed gaze And I know you are there The lights are burning brightly In the corners of your mind Lighting the way into your soul Inviting me into the Comfort of your peace And yet There is a hesitation An uncertainty And I am left to wonder if You offer an invitation inside Or just reflect my own Bewildered curiosity Wondering, even hoping "What if..
..
"
When a child wants to make a new friend, they simply walk up to another child, smile, and ask something like, "Hey...
y'want to play?" It was so very simple when we were children.
We were always willing to adapt our play to include more kids.
"The more the merrier" was always the accepted attitude.
We were always so much more accepting of everyone and anyone around us that wanted to play.
I have watched my own six children go through the same processes as they have grown up.
I really must admit I found it a bit sad in their growing up process that they have lost that simple innocence that always allowed them to develop honest relationships with others.
Which brings us to the present.
Why do we as "adults" have such a difficult time making friends and developing relationships?Why has modern society created a ban on male/female friendships as life goes on? Are we so obsessed with our own sexuality, or lack thereof, that we choose not to balance and enrich our own lives by cultivating friendships from both sexes? When we limit our friendships, we limit our abilities to grow and deepen our abilities to develop true and lasting relationships that will continue through our lifetimes.
Successful marriages are found in developing friendships that were nurtured and allowed to happen.
Successful friendships are the same, as well.
If only we, as adults, could allow the trusting innocence of childhood to permeate our current efforts to develop and strengthen friendships.
If only we didn't have to be always guessing and wondering..
..
How can you haunt me so Keeping so close within reach Touching with heart and mind Yet keeping a distance so far I can barely hear your speaking Above the beating of your heart And the rise and fall of the Breathing in your breast; Our eyes meet in a fixed gaze And I know you are there The lights are burning brightly In the corners of your mind Lighting the way into your soul Inviting me into the Comfort of your peace And yet There is a hesitation An uncertainty And I am left to wonder if You offer an invitation inside Or just reflect my own Bewildered curiosity Wondering, even hoping "What if..
..
"
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