1 Cut off all contact! Yeah I know what you are thinking, how can I get my ex back if I can't talk to them? Ironically talking to your ex right now is only forcing them farther away.
Instead try leaving your ex alone for a couple of months, let them miss you! 2 Sort yourself out first! The most important person in your life now is you! Get your emotions under control and then you can think about approaching your ex.
3 Get your confidence back! The No 1 attraction factor between the sexes is confidence! And the first thing you lose when your relationship ends is your confidence! Work on getting your confidence back and then try getting your ex back.
4 Get back in shape! One of the main reasons that relationships break up is because one of the people in that relationship has let themselves go.
So if you have put on a little weight or are unfit then join a gym or take up a sport.
If you are like me a little too old for running around a gym in a pair of shorts then take up walking instead.
It is a great way to get fit, lose weight and make friends! 5 Stop playing the blame game! It is easy to blame yourself or your ex for what has happened but it will not help you in any way.
The past is the past and it cannot be changed.
Let it go, forgive yourself and forgive your ex, and then you can work on starting a new relationship with your ex.
6 Make a new life! Sitting around moping over what has happened will not help you in any way! Now is the time to contact old friends and make new ones.
Making a new social life for yourself will make you feel more confident which will in turn make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
7 Work out what went wrong! Looking at your old relationship and working out what went wrong with it is so important if you want to have a new relationship with your old partner.
So take a close look at what went wrong and how you can fix it.
8 Stop telling your story! The only person who cares about what happened in your old relationship is you so stop telling everybody else about it! If you want to talk to somebody or need somebody to listen while you sound off then talk to a professional marriage or relationship counsellor! They at least are trained to listen and give advice and you may learn some things about yourself that will help you to get back with your ex.
9 Get back into the dating game! This is the last thing you want to do right now I know! Going out with someone else would feel like a betrayal of your ex! I have news for you, you and your ex are no longer an item so both of you are free to date whoever you choose! Get out there and mingle, going out on dates will build your confidence, let you have fun and show your ex that you are not going to sit around waiting for them! 10 Become your own person! So many relationships fail because one partner becomes totally dependent on the other and ultimately stifles the relationship! Learning to cope with life's ups and downs on your own will make you stronger.
A stronger and more confident you will automatically be more attractive to the opposite sex so show your ex that you are your own person and do not need him or her to be able to survive! Following the tips above will allow you to let go of the past and start to build a new life for yourself.
When your ex sees how well you are doing he or she may well be interested enough to contact you first!