Are you having a hard time convincing your girlfriend to talk to you? Does it seem that everything you do makes things worse? Is it like dealing with a completely different person? Does she seem to have developed an attitude when it comes to you? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may have succeeded in making the same mistakes that the majority of guys make after they have been dumped.
The real problem is that once you are in this mess, it is going to be very hard to get yourself out.
In fact, once it happens, your chances of getting her back are greatly diminished.
Essentially, what happens is that you lose all your power to your ex girlfriend.
There is nothing you have that she wants, and she has everything you want.
This means that you are going to come off as desperate and she is going to pick up on it very quick.
She is going to realize that she controls everything and that you have to accept whatever bone she throws you (if she even does that).
What's that old saying about absolute power corrupts? Now the real problem lies in the fact that, in her eyes, you don't seem quite as valuable as you once did.
I know, that sounds pretty harsh, but it's reality.
It's basic human psychology to assign more value to something that is hard to get.
If you're throwing yourself at her feet, she's not going to see much value.
The good news is that this is easy to fix.
You simply have to up your perceived value.
One of the best ways to do that is to start making yourself scarce.
Scarcity is the first step in creating desire.
Once you're not there for her, she's going to be wondering what's going on - you can be sure of that.
This is the same game that's been going on for thousands of years.
Have you ever wondered why some guys are able to get their girlfriend back without any problem whatsoever? In a word: confidence.
Not only are you going to have to break off contact with her temporarily, you're going to have to do so with confidence.
You're also going to have to show her that you're perfectly fine with the way things turned out (even if you're not).
You have to prove to her that you're getting on with your life.
This is going to show confidence and, over time, it's going to help increase your perceived value in her eyes.
And that is going to so much better than begging and pleading for her to come back to you.