Do Not Let Teething Problems in Your Relationship Destroy it Forever
When you first move in with together it can come as a bit of a shock.
Dating someone even if it has been for years is very different to living with them.
Even if you spent every weekend glued to each other's side.
This transition period can be difficult.
You need to get used to each other.
When you are dating you tend to be on your best behaviour, you let your partner only see what you want them to.
No one can keep this up full time so when his mask slips it can either be a relief that he is human after all and not Mr perfect or a shock to the system when you realise he is a total slob.
And it may be a surprise that she is untidy and hogs the bathroom.
Of course life as usual gets in the way.
Where before your relationship was based on doing fun things together without a care in the world, real life kicks in.
You are both tired and if it is the first time you have lived away from your parents you have all the additional chores and responsibilities, paying the bills, shopping, cooking, housework.
Where do you find the time to put all the love and care into your relationship that you used to? You barely have time to brush your hair! All this puts pressure on your relationship.
You can find rather than being so in love you can hardly breathe without each other you come down to earth with a big bump.
Picking up his dirty under wear is not very romantic.
And probably not what you imagined in your daydreams.
Of course everyone has teething problems.
But it is when disagreements start turning into more serious arguments that problems can start.
Harsh words are exchanged and before you know it one of you has walked out.
It can escalate quite quickly and without you even realising.
But all is not lost this does not mean you cannot sort the problems out.
Do not fall at the first hurdle and throw away a good relationship before it has really got started.
Compromise is what is needed.
OK so he may not be the perfect prince charming you thought and she may not be that princess you put on a pedestal, but we are all just human, no one is perfect.
Everyone has flaws if we like it or not.
Try to look at yourselves from the other partner's point of view.
You may both even have to admit to yourselves as well as each other that you have faults.
Then find a way to compromise and live with them, happily together.
Dating someone even if it has been for years is very different to living with them.
Even if you spent every weekend glued to each other's side.
This transition period can be difficult.
You need to get used to each other.
When you are dating you tend to be on your best behaviour, you let your partner only see what you want them to.
No one can keep this up full time so when his mask slips it can either be a relief that he is human after all and not Mr perfect or a shock to the system when you realise he is a total slob.
And it may be a surprise that she is untidy and hogs the bathroom.
Of course life as usual gets in the way.
Where before your relationship was based on doing fun things together without a care in the world, real life kicks in.
You are both tired and if it is the first time you have lived away from your parents you have all the additional chores and responsibilities, paying the bills, shopping, cooking, housework.
Where do you find the time to put all the love and care into your relationship that you used to? You barely have time to brush your hair! All this puts pressure on your relationship.
You can find rather than being so in love you can hardly breathe without each other you come down to earth with a big bump.
Picking up his dirty under wear is not very romantic.
And probably not what you imagined in your daydreams.
Of course everyone has teething problems.
But it is when disagreements start turning into more serious arguments that problems can start.
Harsh words are exchanged and before you know it one of you has walked out.
It can escalate quite quickly and without you even realising.
But all is not lost this does not mean you cannot sort the problems out.
Do not fall at the first hurdle and throw away a good relationship before it has really got started.
Compromise is what is needed.
OK so he may not be the perfect prince charming you thought and she may not be that princess you put on a pedestal, but we are all just human, no one is perfect.
Everyone has flaws if we like it or not.
Try to look at yourselves from the other partner's point of view.
You may both even have to admit to yourselves as well as each other that you have faults.
Then find a way to compromise and live with them, happily together.
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