How to save a marriage after separation is a question that needs to be asked as calmly as possible, because if you have just separated you are probably feeling desperate and panicked.
This is not a good time for you, I know, I've been there.
The good news is you can get your marriage back together.
While you are probably desperate to fix your marriage you need to understand that it might take a couple of months or more to get back together with your spouse.
Try as best as you can to have a positive mindset, it might seem impossible to keep a positive attitude, but try not to focus on the negative.
The first step is to give the relationship a break for about a month with little or no communication between you and your husband or wife.
You need time to gain perspective on what went wrong and your partner needs time to start to miss you.
The next step is to understand why you want to get back together and making the decision to get back together.
Evaluate the good things and the bad things about your marriage.
Also, you need to understand what caused the separation, are there unresolved issues, was it a rash decision, etc.
Now it's time to break the pattern.
You need to find ways to be different.
Psychologically, people link smells, sights and sounds with memories-good and back.
You don't want your spouse to link bad feelings with you immediately upon seeing you the next time.
So by changing your hairstyle, weight, fashion or perfume for example, you are breaking the pattern he has with old memories.