If you are tired of all the sermonizing those marriage counselors indulge in, in the name of advice you have come to the right place.
If you have a marriage to save, you need practical, realistic, and workable tips, not just a list of do's and don'ts.
I believe saving a marriage requires you to internalize the belief that you CAN SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE! In fact, that's the best place to start - deep inside you.
Once you have accepted this, the next step is to look at the issues that your partner most hates/dislikes in you or about you.
Sure they knew that you had those habits when they married you, but over passage of time partners begin to take each other for granted and stop making the effort to NOT annoy their spouse.
If this has happened with you and your partner, both of you need to pay more attention to it.
After all, if you could make these efforts during courtship then why not now? Why can't you bring out the same feelings like before and re-ignite the flame of love now? Visit the time when you fell in love with your wife/husband and married him/her.
How did you act towards them then? Reliving and replay those memories now.
Cap that toothpaste tube; hang dry that towel after your shower; cook her favorite meal; bring him a hot cup of coffee after he gets back from work; help her in doing the dishes after meals; plan a nice romantic vacation with her and surprise her on her birthday; buy him something he wanted for long.
Friends, it's these small things that REALLY show you care for your man or woman! Don't ever say you are ending your marriage.
FIX IT! FIX IT NOW! Dissecting your past years of marriage will only make you more confused and sad.
Instead, develop a positive attitude towards it.
Start now; start today.
With hope, renewed vigor, and a positive attitude to book, you will never have another marriage to save.
The success of a marriage is dependent on both the people who are a part of that relationship.
The onus doesn't lie with any one partner.
Don't think, "Why should I do this?" Just go ahead and do the 'right' thing even if it means giving in.
Listen attentively; if your partner says something...
try to understand their reasons for being bitter or hurt or angry.
Ask pertinent questions and clarify your stance, your actions.
Try to aim for peaceful resolution to the problem at hand.
Most importantly, always keep the lines of communication open.
Don't ever let your partner feel, he/she has been shut out.
Since no two people think alike, there are bound to be difference.
Talk over this indifference and soon you'll realize that the reason for the argument was trivial.
Finally, Learn to be quiet when difference arise and never let your grievances hover - just get over with them...
MOVE ON...
after all, you have a marriage to save.