When a long relationship turns into a marriage all bets are off.
And that house of cards you've been building all your life, year by year - well, it's left to the whim of your spouse and the huffs of wind you two blast at each other.
Easily, all your cards could tumble and be strewn about the room, just by a passing breeze of a dispute with your wife or husband.
Or, on the other hand, all your cards can stay constructed, withstanding any level of relationship wind.
That house of cards can even be added to by your significant other.
You can combine decks and build one large house of cards.
Either are possible.
Whether or not the former or the latter outcome occurs is really a simple matter of how well your marriage transpires.
Sadly though, the former happens for often than not.
And the scene in any married couples kitchen is a table and floor smattered with spades, clubs, diamonds and hearts of all numbers and card-faces.
Visually, card-faces satirically look up at you, laughing at your marital fall through.
The King, Queen and Jack, in their expressionlessness, get to you.
But, it's a matter of not allowing them to pierce through you.
Marriage Is a Gamble, A Game of Chance And you have to know this before readying yourself to commit to another.
Yet, most couples are blissfully ignorant and just feel their situation is too good to be true, one with no gambles or chances to worry or speak of.
This is not the case.
Married couples, listen up.
And let the truth settle in.
Get this marital Utopia vision out of your head.
Marriage is far from ideal.
Far from perfect.
There are arguments, airborne objects, unhappy moments and so on.
You need to realize that when you bring your deck of cards together with your spouse's deck that what you bring together and spur is the biggest gamble of all - marriage.
And it's a game of chance.
Even if you act rightly and respectfully to one another, things can fall a part.
House of Cards Tumbles Down When the house weakens through disputes, lack of compromising or other marital hardship circumstances, it's not over completely.
Just as with anything else, it's a matter of picking up and rebuilding.
Especially in the scenario where this house of cards was put together in a joint effort between a married couple, it can easily be gathered, stacked as a new deck and then taken one card at a time to make a new house of cards.
And, sure, this may seem easier said than done.
But, it's more than possible.
And when going through the process of reshaping, replacing that house of cards, know that you should seek some advice while doing it all.
Marriage Advice As Rebuilding Glue There were reasons why your house of cards came tumbling down.
You just weren't getting along together anymore.
She cheated.
You cheated.
Lies were flying around.
Anything, any reasoning is possible.
Yet, no matter the reason for your house of cards' demise, you need to learn from your mistakes and correct the reasons that got you to such a reconstructing place.
Get some outside advice, some perspectives on what others feels you did wrong, both as a couple and individually.