7 Ways to Assist a Friend Who Has a Marriage Problem
It is sad whenever you have friends come to you and speak about their marriage problem.
They might have struggled for long and still can't find some proper help or a solution, so how can you help? 1.
Be a good listener.
Tell him/her you mean strict confidentiality and encourage them to unload anything whenever it's needed.
You have the shoulder for them.
2.
Tell him/her it's always easy to break a relationship than to build it, but regardless of where they're in this process, marriage is worth fighting for.
And you are open to support them.
3.
Encourage them to make the necessary change if they want to see the marriage survive and improve.
For example, if frequent travel is the problem that leads to a damage to their relationship, maybe he/she should consider to change for another job? 4.
Of course every person is reluctant to "change" which is always a challenge and the decision is hard.
Not everything can be measured monetarily.
Whenever they thought they lost something as a subsequence of a change, there have been always some other things they gain in return.
So encourage them to be bold, and there is nothing to regret.
5.
Tell them for a true friendship, it doesn't mean to support whatever they do or to go for, but to help them to do what's right and what's best for them.
6.
We may not able to provide professional advice, so do refer them to a professional counselor, maybe at the community center, churches etc.
7.
Encourage them to go to their religious support, where they can gain the strength and perseverance.
They might just lack of any confidence to face the issue and reconcile it.
In order to survive, many marriages need a miracle...
There is always something that is beyond our capability so leave it to the ONE above to make it.
I hope you know what I mean.
I find it very touching whenever I try to remind my friends who have their marriage problems, about the Marriage vows that they did together before.
"For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
" The good old days would flash again in their heads and it is a good time to review the whole issue all over again.
May all of us have a blessed marriage.
They might have struggled for long and still can't find some proper help or a solution, so how can you help? 1.
Be a good listener.
Tell him/her you mean strict confidentiality and encourage them to unload anything whenever it's needed.
You have the shoulder for them.
2.
Tell him/her it's always easy to break a relationship than to build it, but regardless of where they're in this process, marriage is worth fighting for.
And you are open to support them.
3.
Encourage them to make the necessary change if they want to see the marriage survive and improve.
For example, if frequent travel is the problem that leads to a damage to their relationship, maybe he/she should consider to change for another job? 4.
Of course every person is reluctant to "change" which is always a challenge and the decision is hard.
Not everything can be measured monetarily.
Whenever they thought they lost something as a subsequence of a change, there have been always some other things they gain in return.
So encourage them to be bold, and there is nothing to regret.
5.
Tell them for a true friendship, it doesn't mean to support whatever they do or to go for, but to help them to do what's right and what's best for them.
6.
We may not able to provide professional advice, so do refer them to a professional counselor, maybe at the community center, churches etc.
7.
Encourage them to go to their religious support, where they can gain the strength and perseverance.
They might just lack of any confidence to face the issue and reconcile it.
In order to survive, many marriages need a miracle...
There is always something that is beyond our capability so leave it to the ONE above to make it.
I hope you know what I mean.
I find it very touching whenever I try to remind my friends who have their marriage problems, about the Marriage vows that they did together before.
"For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
" The good old days would flash again in their heads and it is a good time to review the whole issue all over again.
May all of us have a blessed marriage.
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